Posted in Penang Feng Shui Master Lee on 20/8/26
八字：其实就是我们的人生说明书
你了解自己的八字吗？
你会发现，我很少在 Facebook 上谈论八字。
虽然很多年前，我已经出版过自己的八字书籍 , 而且在为客户看风水的时候，我也必须结合客户的八字命格来判断。因为在我看来，八字是一个非常复杂的系统，如果没有对命理和风水有一定兴趣和基础，要完全理解其中的理论，其实并不容易。
不过今天，我想尝试用比较简单的方式，和大家谈谈：到底什么是八字？
简单来说，八字就是根据一个人的出生年、月、日、时来推算。
古人以天干地支来记录时间，而一个人的出生年月日时，就形成了四柱，每一柱由一个天干和一个地支组成，所以四柱一共八个字，因此称为「八字」。
从传统命理的角度来看，八字就是我们的「命」。
为什么「命」这么重要？
因为八字里面包含了很多与我们有关的信息，例如一个人的性格、家庭关系，以及很多先天条件。
一个人天生长得高大、英俊或美丽，可以是一种优势；身体条件好，是一种优势；天资聪明，也是优势；如果出生在一个良好的家庭环境，能够得到父母更多的教育和资源，同样是一种优势。
所以我常常把「命」比喻成我们出生时拿到的一副牌。
如果一开始拿到一副好牌，人生自然会比较容易；如果先天条件比较不足，就可能需要付出更多努力。
这并不是说人生已经完全决定，而是说，我们每个人的起点并不一样。
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「命」就是先天条件
为什么我说命属于先天？
因为我们无法选择自己出生在哪一个家庭，也无法选择自己的父母，更无法选择自己出生的时间。
现代科学也已经证明，遗传基因对一个人的身体特征、健康风险以及部分天赋倾向，都有重要影响。
例如父母的身高、外貌等特征，都可能遗传给下一代；某些疾病也存在家族遗传或遗传倾向。
这些都是我们出生时已经拥有的先天条件。
所以从命理的角度来看，所谓的「命」，就是我们出生时所带来的基本条件。
这也是为什么我现在已经不再帮助别人选择所谓的「吉时」来安排孩子出生。
因为从我的经验来看，即使人为指定了一个时间，孩子往往还是会选择在自己应该来到这个世界的时候出生。
命，是我们拿到的牌；但人生怎么打这副牌，还是要看我们自己。
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三岁定终身？性格真的很重要
俗话说：「三岁定终身。」
以我个人多年来研究八字的经验来看，我认为八字其中一个非常重要的作用，就是帮助我们了解一个人的本命与性格。
因为一个人的性格，往往会影响他一生所走的道路。
一个性格坚强的人，遇到困难的时候不会轻易放弃，而是会坚持到底。
例如在八字中，如果一个人的本命属于戊土——阳土，他的性格往往比较坚强，有担当，也比较有领导能力。
我常常把戊土比喻成一块大石头。
你把一块大石头丢进水里，不管水有多大，它依然可以屹立在那里。
历史人物邓小平，就是我经常用来说明这种性格特点的例子。他一生经历过许多起伏，但依然能够坚持下来。
相反，一般来说，阴性的命格会表现得比较柔和，有些人更喜欢在幕后工作，而不是站在最前面领导别人。
所以，了解自己的本命，其实就是在了解自己的性格。
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日元，就是「我」
那么八字到底要从哪里开始看？
八字排出来以后，我们首先要找的，就是自己的本命。
而本命最重要的参考，就是「日元」。
日元，就是日柱的天干，也可以简单理解为八字里的「我」。
例如一个人的日元是甲木——阳木，我们可以把他比喻成一棵参天大树。
树木不断向上生长，追求阳光，因此甲木的人通常比较有目标、有原则，也比较坚持自己的方向。
但大树有一个特点：它不会轻易弯曲。
所以甲木的人有时候也会比较固执，坚持己见，而且往往有领导和保护别人的倾向。
因为一棵大树可以为别人遮风挡雨。
这就是八字有趣的地方——天干地支并不是单纯的符号，而是古人用自然界的现象来理解人的性格与人生。
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八字最重要的，不只是「强」或「弱」
了解自己的日元之后，我们还必须观察八字里面其他七个字与日元之间的关系。
这样才能判断一个人的八字属于身强还是身弱，再进一步分析所谓的「十神」。
这里的「身强、身弱」，并不是说一个人的身体强壮或虚弱，更不是与神仙鬼怪有关，而是指八字五行能量之间的强弱关系。
而这就回到了《易经》最重要的核心思想之一：
中庸与平衡。
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《易经》的核心：平衡
《易经》的思想告诉我们，天地万物都必须保持一定的平衡。
阴阳需要平衡，五行也需要平衡。
太阳系能够长期保持稳定运行，本身就是一个非常复杂的天体系统。古人则用阴阳、五行等思想，去理解天地之间的变化与平衡。
所以在八字里面，我们并不是看到一个人缺什么，就简单地补什么。
真正重要的是：
这个八字到底需要什么？
例如一个人的本命是甲木，如果八字里面水和木已经非常旺，那么这个人的木就可能已经过强，就不能再一味增加水和木。
反过来，如果木本身很弱，而八字又需要水木来帮助，那么适当地得到水木的力量，反而可以达到平衡。
这就是命理里面所谓的「用神」。
所以学八字，最终不是为了告诉你「你一定会发生什么」，而是帮助我们了解：
自己需要什么，什么对自己有利，什么需要避免。
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命是命，运是运
我们平常都把「命运」两个字放在一起。
但在命理里面：
命，是先天；运，是后天。
命，就像我们出生时拿到的牌。
运，就像我们后来所遇到的天气和环境。
有时候天气晴朗，有时候下雨，有时候甚至遇到暴风雨。
一个人的人生也一样，会经历不同的十年大运，也会有不同的流年，甚至每天的运势也会有所变化。
当一个人进入新的十年大运，如果刚好遇到自己需要的五行，而且没有受到严重的冲克，那么通常就比较容易走得顺。
相反，如果进入一个不利自己的运势阶段，就可能感觉事情比较多、阻力比较大。
所以我们常听到一句话：
「命不能改，运可以改。」
我认为这句话更准确的理解应该是：
我们不能选择自己的起点，但可以学习如何顺应自己的条件，选择更适合自己的道路。
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为什么换大运时，人生容易发生变化？
一个人从一个十年大运进入另一个十年大运，就好像一辆火车驶到一个新的车站。
火车停下来以后，又重新启动。
刚开始的时候，可能会有一些卡顿，因为需要克服摩擦力。
人生也是一样。
当一个人结束一个十年大运，进入另一个新的阶段时，事业、家庭、人际关系，甚至自己的想法，都可能出现变化。
这种「不适应」，并不一定是坏事。
因为人生本来就是一个不断变化的过程。
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八字，其实就是人生的说明书
所以，我认为学习八字最重要的目的，并不是为了每天问：
「我今天会不会发财？」
而是通过八字，更了解自己。
了解自己的性格，了解自己的优势，了解自己的弱点，也了解自己在什么环境下比较容易发挥。
八字就好像我们的人生说明书，也像一张人生地图。
有了地图，我们至少知道自己在哪里；有了说明书，我们也比较知道应该如何使用自己的优势。
人生不一定能够按照我们计划的路线走，但如果我们了解自己的方向，就可以少走一些弯路。
这就是我所说的：
顺势而为。
不是叫我们什么都不做，而是懂得观察自己的条件，了解环境的变化，然后选择最适合自己的方法前进。
命，是我们拿到的牌；运，是我们遇到的环境；而人生，则是我们如何把这副牌打好。
今天就先谈到这里。
如果大家对八字有兴趣，以后我再慢慢和大家分享「日元、十神、身强身弱、用神以及大运」这些比较深入的内容。
有兴趣的朋友，也可以参考我多年前出版的八字书籍。
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Bazi: Our Life's Instruction Manual
Do You Understand Your Bazi?
You may have noticed that I rarely talk about Bazi on Facebook.
Although I published a book on Bazi many years ago, Bazi is also something I must consider when I conduct a Feng Shui consultation, because the client's personal Bazi can provide important information when assessing their Feng Shui.
The reason I don't often discuss it is simple: Bazi is a very sophisticated system. Without some interest and basic understanding of Chinese metaphysics, it can be difficult to understand its theories.
So today, let me try to explain Bazi in a much simpler way.
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What Exactly Is Bazi?
Bazi is calculated from a person's year, month, day and time of birth.
The ancient Chinese used the Heavenly Stems and Earthly Branches to record time. The four components—year, month, day and hour—form the Four Pillars. Each pillar consists of one Heavenly Stem and one Earthly Branch.
Four pillars multiplied by two characters gives us eight characters.
That is why it is called Bazi — the Eight Characters.
From the traditional perspective, Bazi represents our “Ming”, or our innate destiny.
Why is it important?
Because Bazi contains information about many aspects of our innate conditions, including personality, family relationships and natural advantages.
Being naturally tall, attractive, physically strong or intelligent can all be advantages. Being born into a supportive and well-resourced family can also provide significant advantages.
So I often use an analogy:
Your Ming is like the hand of cards you are dealt at the beginning of the game.
If you receive a good hand, the game may be easier. If you receive a more difficult hand, you may need to work much harder.
But that does not mean the entire game has already been decided.
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Ming Is Our Innate Condition
Why do I call it our innate condition?
Because we cannot choose our parents, our family background or the exact moment we are born.
Modern science has also shown that genetics plays an important role in many physical characteristics, inherited traits and certain health risks.
For example, height and some physical characteristics can be influenced by our parents' genes. Certain diseases also have genetic or hereditary predispositions.
These are conditions we inherit rather than choose.
This is why, from the perspective of Bazi, Ming represents the conditions we are born with.
However, I no longer help people deliberately choose a specific birth time for their children. In my experience, even when a particular time is planned, babies often arrive when they are ready to enter the world.
So I believe:
We may not be able to choose the cards we are dealt, but we can learn how to play them well.
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Personality Can Influence the Path We Take
There is an old Chinese saying:
「三岁定终身」——“By the age of three, one's character is largely formed.”
From my years of studying Bazi, I believe one of its most useful applications is understanding a person's innate character.
Why?
Because personality can influence the direction of a person's life.
A strong and determined person may continue moving forward even when faced with difficulties.
For example, a person whose Day Master is Wu Earth (戊土) is traditionally associated with the qualities of strong Yang Earth.
I often compare this to a large rock.
Throw a large rock into the water. No matter how strong the current is, the rock can remain standing.
This is why Wu Earth is often associated with determination, stability, responsibility and leadership.
On the other hand, Yin-type personalities are traditionally associated with a softer and more flexible approach, and some may prefer working behind the scenes rather than leading from the front.
So understanding your Bazi can, in a traditional sense, help you understand your own character and natural tendencies.
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The Day Master Is “Me”
When analysing Bazi, one of the first things we identify is the Day Master.
The Day Master is the Heavenly Stem of the Day Pillar.
In simple terms:
The Day Master represents “me”.
For example, if your Day Master is Jia Wood (甲木), it can be compared to a great tree.
A great tree continuously grows upwards toward sunlight. Therefore, Jia Wood is traditionally associated with people who are determined, principled and persistent in pursuing their goals.
But there is another side to a great tree:
It does not bend easily.
Therefore, Jia Wood personalities can sometimes be stubborn or very firm in their beliefs.
At the same time, a great tree provides shade and protection for others, so Jia Wood is also traditionally associated with leadership and a protective nature.
This is one of the fascinating aspects of Bazi: ancient Chinese metaphysics uses images from nature to understand human characteristics.
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Bazi Is About Balance
After identifying the Day Master, we look at the other seven characters and examine their relationships with it.
This allows us to understand whether the Bazi is relatively strong or weak, and then analyse the Ten Gods.
Please note that “strong” and “weak” here do not refer to physical strength or weakness. They describe the balance of the Five Elements within the Bazi.
And this brings us back to one of the central ideas of the I Ching:
Balance.
Yin and Yang need balance. The Five Elements also need balance.
So when analysing Bazi, we should not simply say, “You lack this element, so you need more of it.”
The real question is:
What does your Bazi actually need to achieve balance?
This is where the concept of the Useful God (用神) becomes important.
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Ming Is Ming, Yun Is Yun
In everyday Chinese, we often put 「命」 and 「运」 together and call it 「命运」.
But in traditional Chinese metaphysics:
Ming is innate. Yun is the later development and circumstances of life.
Ming is like the cards you are dealt.
Yun is like the weather you encounter while playing the game.
Sometimes the sky is clear. Sometimes it rains. Sometimes there is even a storm.
A person's life also moves through different 10-year luck cycles, annual cycles and shorter periods.
When a person enters a period that provides the elements their Bazi needs, life may become smoother.
When the environment conflicts with what the Bazi needs, life may feel more challenging.
This is why people often say:
「命不能改，运可以改。」
I prefer to understand this as:
We may not be able to choose our starting point, but we can learn how to respond to our circumstances.
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Bazi Is Like a Map
To me, learning Bazi is not about asking every day:
“Will I become rich today?”
The real value is understanding yourself.
Understand your personality.
Understand your strengths.
Understand your weaknesses.
Understand what kind of environment allows you to perform at your best.
Bazi is like an instruction manual for your life, and also like a map.
A map tells you where you are and helps you understand which direction you can take.
The map does not guarantee that the journey will be easy.
But when you understand the terrain, you can avoid unnecessary detours and make better choices.
And this brings us to an important concept:
顺势而为 — Go with the flow.
It does not mean doing nothing.
It means understanding your own conditions, observing changes around you, and choosing the most suitable way to move forward.
Ming is the hand of cards you are dealt.
Yun is the environment and weather you encounter.
And life is how you choose to play those cards.
That, to me, is one of the most meaningful ways to understand Bazi.
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